A second ring

Becca and I are quickly approaching our 10th wedding anniversary. Knowing that date is coming up we’ve discussed what we’d like as gifts for our anniversary. I surprised Becca by telling her I’d like another ring like my wedding ring.

Anyone who knows me, knows I don’t wear jewelry. My wedding ring it just a simple titanium band and the only jewelry I’ve ever worn. But, I’ve thought about it a lot over the past year and decided that’s what I wanted. My wedding ring serves as a reminder of the vows I took. While that is special, anyone will tell you it’s easy to take vows. It’s easy to say forever means forever. Making that happen, though, well, that’s just plain hard work.

I wanted another ring as a different kind of reminder. I wanted the second ring to remind me that whether my marriage is happy or not is entirely up to me. I can choose to treat my wife the way she deserves. I can choose to continue to date and romance her even after 10 years. I can decide what our relationship looks like. The hard part is not letting circumstances effect how I act. This second ring is a constant reminder that I need to keep watch on the state of my marriage.

That’s why I chose to wear it on the middle finger of my left hand. Every time I hear that metallic clink as it hits my wedding ring, I’ll be reminded of my wife. I’ll be reminded of the good times, the tough times and all the times in between. It reminds me to stay vigilant and watch over this relationship God has entrusted to us.



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